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Sunday, July 14, 2019

Hangin' in There

I can't believe it has been 10 months since my last post.

A lot has happened since then...A LOT of stuff.

My ebay store is still open, but just barely. I haven't listed anything in over a year, probably closer to two years. I had more important things to take care of. But I keep selling a small amount here and there that helps a little. I have all of my inventory in my "new" house, in the garage, and it fills it up to the brim.

About the "new" house. I have a modular home 50 miles from my permanent residence. Two far to travel back and forth daily.An hour and half, one way. The home is two story, the modular is a one story ranch. At the time I decided to move my SweetiePie was very sick and had had several bad falls and couldn't get up and down the stairs to our bedroom. Rather than move everything around I chose to move us to the modular home with the plus being close to our daughter and her family. I think it was a good move. SweetiePie could get around better and while it wasn't home we were together and everything was fine.

 September, 2018 SweetiePie had another fall and this time had to go to rehab for 3 weeks. After that, he was in a wheel chair and hospital bed. Plenty of room at the new home for all of his equipment.
He seemed to be doing fine, as well as he could be with all of his problems. Dementia, Parkinson's and Progressive Supranuclear Palsy(PSP) were taking a toll on him and his body. I needed to get us moved to the modular and sell the two story house. I was running in six directions at one time and trying to take care of him. Couldn't handle everything, so I focused on him.

After SweetiePie got out of rehab he was in hospice care. I can't say enough good things about hospice care. They saved my sanity and took very good care of him. In spite of all the good care he got an intestinal virus or bacterial infection (or something) and passed away November 26, 2018. It was too soon and we were not ready, but he was. He went very peaceful, which is what he wanted.

Miss him every day and always will. We were together 47 years. He wouldn't want me moping around with a box of Kleenex at my elbow. I had accepted long ago that there was no medication for his disease, PSP, and that he would not get better. Just make the time he had the best I could. Pie for dinner every day. Man on man did he love his pie!!

As they say, Life goes on. Time to get my s**t together and get moved. As it turned out I have a lot of s**t to get together. Ebay inventory went first to the modular home. Filled the garage and then some. I have been going back and forth from the old house to the new house weekly. A lot of things to do at both places.

I had hired a contractor (July 2018) to repair the master bathroom at the modular home and put in a walk in shower for SweetiePie. Well at the end of August 2018 he walked off the job with the shower not finished. What to do? I had my hands full with care for SweetiePie. I could take him to court and it would cost more money and doubtful that I would get any money back. He promised a $4000 refund. SweetiePie never used it.I contacted our local TV station Troubleshooter and a story aired in December about the problem. The original contractor didn't do anything but promise a refund, and didn't follow through. (I found out later that he had done the same thing to at least two other people)  The Troubleshooter contacted me in January and said she had a contractor/master carpenter that was willing to finish the tile in the bathroom for me. By this time my husband had passed and I was so grateful for someone willing to finish the mess left by the other contractor. I met with him and he knew what he was doing. He came and finished the job and it is wonderful. I also hired him to do the repairs at the home I was getting ready to sell. Best thing I ever did. He had done this kind of thing before, getting a house ready to sell. He knows his stuff and I am almost there, thanks to him.

So that is what I have been doing in my absence. Almost to the light at the end of the tunnel.

I hope to get the house on the market before the end of July. I desperately need a trip to the beach to chill out and get myself de-stressed.

I plan to get the house sold, get de-stressed, do some traveling and get ebay back on top. I have lots and lots of inventory to list. I refuse to call it my "death pile". I have enough to fill two stores if I just get busy and DO IT!!!

I may not be able to post for another month or so because hopefully I will be busy sprucing up the modular home after I sell the two story house.

Fingers, toes crossed XXXXX

6 comments:

  1. So sorry for your loss. Grief is not easy, take time and be good to yourself.

    Lisa @Happy Girl Thrift

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    1. Thank you. Yes grief takes a long time and just when you think you have things in control along comes another wave. I'm glad I have a major project to keep me occupied when I'm down.

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  2. Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss:( I don't remember how I stumbled across your blog but I have been reading it for years. Prayers going up for you and I'm glad you have things to keep your mind and hands occupied:)

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    1. Thank you it really is true that time flies when you are busy. And being busy keeps the mind occupied. I'm excited to get back to ebay when the time is right.

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  3. sorry I'm late to reading this. I hadn't been blogging for awhile and just restarted. Sorry to hear about your sweetiepie. I lost both my parents in 2018 as well. I hope you have sold your house and have some sort of normalcy back. Take care

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  4. Thank you. So sorry about your parents. It has to be hard to lose them both so close together. I have sold the house, yeah!!! and am in the middle of remodeling the "new" one I purchased. I guess that normal is out of the question with all that is going on in the world. I'll just settle for getting through each day safely. God bless and take care

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